Swipe Me Left, I’m Dalit

April 23, 2018

Everything from knowledge to housing to career is determined by one’s social location. And so are relationships. We are familiar with the stats from 2014 on OKcupid, which showed that black women were the least desirable group (Asian men were rated lowest by single women). Closer home, there is no survey to justify a similar … Read More

Why Don’t Brown Women Deserve Love Onscreen?

June 27, 2017

Why are brown men so infatuated with white women onscreen, BuzzFeed writer Imran Siddiquee asks in his essay of the same name. Why do they overlook and underrepresent women of color in order to date white women, is the question I ask. While Sidiquee eviscerated the genre of “Diaspora South Asian Dude Does Rom-Com” in … Read More

The Suitable Girl: Dil Mil vs. Kama

August 19, 2016

I mean, does it really matter? This piece comes by special request and also cuz it needed to be done. When it comes to dating apps you have your Tinder, your Coffee Meets Bagel, your OKCupid, and your Bumble. Each has its respective demographic — Coffee Meets Bagel is for introverts looking for something longterm, OKCupid is for weird … Read More

The Suitable Girl: I waxed my mustache for this?

July 1, 2016

I have a friend who will spend that whole first hour of a first date on the phone, asking her date to buy her drinks, if there’s obviously no attraction. At least she’s honest about her intentions. I have other friends who will sit around uncomfortably, waiting to be excused so they can go home … Read More

listen man

April 27, 2016

  all these white women get to bore me. i have nothing to say and when i do i am a live museum exhibit that they like to grab at. how do i tell them to not look or touch. how do i tell them that i am in many senses trying to punch out … Read More

The Suitable Girl: *Cue Musical Number*

March 31, 2016

I am currently suffering through my first debilitating New York allergy season. So while I’ve been laid up in bed I’ve been making full use of Netflix’s amazing Bollywood library. And because all great epiphanies come when you’re weak and your guard’s been lowered, I realized something: cheesy Bollywood movies from the 90s shaped my … Read More

Modern Romance, Book Review

July 9, 2015

  Your phone holds the key to the greatest force in the internet — love (and, slightly less great but definitely still compelling, sex). Apps, websites, emails, and texts form the brunt of our new age wooing, and in the massive onslaught of humanity that is the internet we often feel overwhelmed. The main problem is actually … Read More

Dating: Two Straws, One Bottle

December 14, 2014

When my parents were growing up, “dating” was unheard of. Sure, we’ve all heard what the dating ritual involved for generations before us. Instead of a red Pontiac Trans Am, dreamy driver, and bottle of Thums Up with two straws, the girl’s parents would indicate interest in the eligible bachelor around the corner by letting … Read More